not knowing enough, more information always needed?

i have some business plans and some potential business partners, and recently, it has progressed to a stage where we are going to incorporate a company..

being an analyst, i want to know there is everything to know about my potential partners before going into an agreement with them, afterall, settting up a company together is easier, it’s the breaking up part that is messy.

i was really obsessed about whether my potential partners are of the right type.. are they honest? with integrity? diligent? clean? etc..

i really was going around in circles without a definite answer to those, and so i approached my guru, and i wanted my guru to guide me and tell me if i should go into partnership with them..

my guru came back with a very simple reply;

if your partners have the same objectives, then just have faith and learn to deal with ups and downs of being involved in businesses.. there will be ups and downs, guaranteed,.. there is no need for you to know their background that much, each people has their own dark secrets that they don’t want to let other people know.. and there is really no point in you knowing into that kind of minor detail..

it is the same with being in a relationship, being in a relationship, as long as the couple both have the same objectives, then just go with it and learn to deal with the ups and downs of being involved in a relationship..

those words are truly words of wisdom, in our age, we have learnt to disassociate ourselves from downs, we tend to want to not get involved in bad things, and can’t stand the sight of bad things, so much so that we have become control and intellectual freaks, that we have lost the ability to learn how to deal with ups and downs.. or that we have learnt that the only way to deal with bad things is to not have it in the first place? if we don’t learn how to deal with downs, and only know how to deal with downs is to not have them in the first place, then, we would devoid ourselves with more and more things in the long run!

why have we come to this point? where we only know how to deal with freaking ourselves out with the outer, but lost focus that it’s the inner that we have to learn? this self-precious ego thing is suffering!!

thanks guru.. dealing with the inner and learning how to manage myself in ups and downs of the society and relationships, and be faithful with people is more important than knowing everything there is to know..

to be on top of matters is not to know every little minute detail out there that there is to know, and be an intellectual and control freak..

to be on top of matters is simply to manage yourself well on the inner and the outer situation will then be well.

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reminder on love and attachment

Often it is only when people suddenly feel they are losing their partner that they realize how much they love them. Then they cling on even tighter. But the more they grasp, the more the other person escapes them, and the more fragile the relationship becomes.

So often we want happiness, but the very way we pursue it is so clumsy and unskillful that it brings only more sorrow. Usually we assume we must grasp in order to have that something that will ensure our happiness. We ask ourselves: “How can we possibly enjoy anything if we cannot own it?” How often attachment is mistaken for love!

Even when the relationship is a good one, love can be spoiled by attachment with its insecurity, possessiveness, and pride; and then when love is gone, all you have left to show for it are the “souvenirs” of love, the scars of attachment.

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30/30

“我曾指若有六十岁命，三十过后就是人生开始倒数之时。。 “  杨千嬅

i have absolutely no clue when i will live till, perhaps 60 is a good gauge, as our chinese elemental horoscope goes a full circle every 60years.. to be more detailed,1980 is the year of the Metal Monkey, 1992 will be the year of the Water Monkey, 2004 will be the Wood Monkey, 2016 will be Fire Monkey, 2028 will be Earth Monkey, and then 2040 will be Metal Monkey again..

so, turning 30yrs old in a matter of months, is quite a significant milestone for me.. i sort of have a rough plan on how i would want to spend my 30yrs old birthday, and so the next few months will be to prepare my trip, and perhaps also take the time to reminiscence on the people who has made a significant contribution to my life..

family, gurus, friends, ex-bosses immediately springs to mind, people that have moulded me.. but how many of them will be able to be together with me and continue the next 30yrs like what we had in the past 30yrs? immediate family, siblings have already started their own family and moved out, while friends are starting to spend more time with their kids, or making babies…

counting down one’s life after 30yrs old suddenly seems not a far fetched plan that i can defer any longer.. we couldn’t choose how we want to live since we were born till we are 30, but we can certainly choose how we want to live our next 30yrs, and choose wisely, carefully, we must.. if we keep our daily routine, dosing ourselves without realising we are still in the rat race, and continue to live as though we are in our 20s, i am sure, by the time we realised it, we will already be 32, 33..

we can’t continue to live in pretendence, living as though we have all the time in the world and that we won’t age..

to move purposely forward, we must examine the paths we have taken so far.. revisit and reflect on them, but also mindful in not allowing ourselves to be trapped by our past while reflecting on them..

i think meditation helps, be it spiritual meditation, yoga, qi-gong…

quoted,…

“What’s more, all these experiences of pleasure and pain,
Are not brought about by anyone besides yourself.
They are produced by your very own actions, good and bad.
Once you know this, it’s crucial that you act accordingly,
Without confusing what should be adopted and abandoned.”

newCo update

met with all the partners, 4 of us, for lunch at Bumbu, a Indonesian-Thai restaurant at Far East Square..

- managed to review the newCo setup questionnaire and when we are gonna meet the lawyer and administrator.. we decided sometime around Jan2010..
- identified distribution arms for our products,..
- phase1 90% ready for launching, phase2 40% ready, phase 3 not ready..

quite a few investment models to tweak… i hope i don’t sound arrogant, but before tweaking the models, these models to me, if applied correctly, are hard to lose money.. but after the tweaking, i firmly believe they will be extremely extremely hard to lose money.. speaking from a former I-Bank proprietary trader perspective, what we are doing coupled together with TD indicators, i would say we have a pretty good product to enrich a lot of people’s life.. money making money never seemed easier.. i love this part of the adventure.. great adventure… it’s gonna be a wonderful experience..

had dinner with my bro, dad, my sis-in-law’s family at East Ocean, Shaw Centre… while walking to the restaurant on level 2, i walked pass that Agnes B shop… they refurbished quite a bit since Easter 2002.. they still sell nice sweaters…

decided to walk back home from Orchard Rd after dinner to look at the Christmas deco.. pretty good

so glad to know..

i left my prior job and it’s coming up to about a year now.. it’s comforting to know that my ex-boss still thinks very highly of me, even though she has unsuccessfully courted me to go back there three times..

recently, i recommended SY’s bro who just graduated from Imperial College, London to work there, and my ex-boss took the chance to wish me luck on my new business venture, and says i am always welcomed back to her place if mine doesn’t work out..

am very grateful, thks.. and what a coincidence that her younger brother was once in the same college as me!

HΞ formed..

well, that’s the agreed name for our new co. comprising 1M, 2S and 1I..

since i quit my position in AmMerchant’s Equity Derivative desk where i had the trust of the whole team, and where i am trusted to call the shots there, i have been working closely to someday form a company where our research can benefit men/women on the streets.. that’s my core aim, everybody wins..

may it be auspicious and with great benefits to all !

Row, row, row your boat.. ……

when you’re down spirited and stressed, you can try to sing this to yourself.. it has helped me more often than you think it had..

here it goes ~ ~ ~

Row, row, row your boat,
Gently down the stream.
Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily,
Life is but a dream.

a famous english nursery song that i now dedicate whole heartedly for all people involved in the financial markets..

The lyrics have often been used as a metaphor for life’s difficult choices, and many see the boat as referring to one’s self or a group with which one identifies.

[1] Rowing is a skillful, if tedious, practice that takes perfection but also directs the vessel.

[2] When sung as a group, the act of rowing becomes a unifier, as oars must be in sync in a rowboat. The idea that man travels along a certain stream, suggests boundaries in the path of choices and in free will.

[3] The third line recommends that challenges should be greeted in stride while open to joy with a smile.

[4] The final line, life is but a dream, is perhaps the most meaningful. With a religious point of view, life and the physical plane may be regarded as having equivalent value as that of a dream, such that troubles are seen in the context of a lesser reality once one has awakened.

[5] Conversely, the line can just as equally convey nihilist sentiments on the meaninglessness of man’s actions. The line is also commonly sung as “life is like a dream” rather than “life is but a dream”, possibly to sound happier, less meaningful, and more appropriate for its audience of young children.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Row,_Row,_Row_Your_Boat

meeting TD!

wow… finally meet TD the man himself!

it started with a coach ride to singapore on the evening of the 16th April, reached SG about midnight, was truly excited that it took me a while to get down to sleeping. i am meeting TD!! how can you not get excited? it’s his first time to SG as well..  i woke up on the 17th and proceeded to Bloomberg’s office at Capital Square and reached around 8.30am.. i was the first to arrive!! and it is also one of the rare occasions that i put on a tie too.. i felt uncomfortable with the tie, but what the hell, it’s TD! hahhaa

not long after, GT came walking into office with TD and RK! both of them were huge! we sat in the conference room and TD did a brief explanation of his indicators and RK gave a short talk on TDRS, and then the rest of the time were opened to Q&A.. some idiotic hedge fund manager started asking ass-licking questions and that spoilt some really short time that we had with TD.. IDIOT!! this is not a time to ass-lick or do sales!

i was to meet TD and RK again, this time at Credit Suisse Singapore near One Raffles Link around 4pm.. i reached NB’s office around 3.30pm, and we waited for TD and RK to arrive. during TD’s presentation in Credit Suisse’s office, i felt so sleepy after the prior night’s late sleep that i dozed off!! in my defense, these things happen after a 12hr non-stop adrenalin rush..  hahha

the meeting ended around 6pm, and i am going to have dinner with TD, RK! woohoo!! what a privilege!! we went back to TD’s hotel, St.Regis, and then we went to east coast park, for some seafood.. it was a thoroughly enjoyable evening, and this is one of the best birthday presents that i can ask for !!

TD is a real real genius.. and extremely humble person, and so is RK..