二十是摸索，三十是争取

i had an interesting, coincidental meeting with an old concord college friend in singapore over the weekend, i was transiting from San Francisco, to Singapore, and in my Singapore to KL leg, i met my college friend whom i’ve not met for 2yrs.. he’s Wee Kok, an old buddy of mine, and we were both at the airport 2hrs+ early!

it was a real coincidence bumping into him there.. i apologised to him for missing his 3rd baby’s full moon party, and after a black face, we were fine again.. we agreed that the past 8-9yrs since Uni passed by so quickly, and he was my junior in college, he is married, settled down with 3 kids.. doing well apparently, he is after all, working for his family as a property developer.. he has never worked for a big corporate before, and all his working experience was being a boss and developing property..

he has seen much different things from where a corporate employee would see into.. and he told me that if i felt the past 10yrs passed by quickly, the next 10yrs will pass by even more quickly! which i totally agree! the past 10yrs for me was that i was finding my feet, moving around the investment industry, trying things out, and even spent a year and two trying to make a business venture work but was later played out at the end.. if 21-30 was really a time where i were finding my feet, then 31-40 would really be settling things on one and set fly on it..

i’ve got an offer to work for a foreign fund based in malaysia, and if i were to accept, would mean that in future, i would have an easier route, better cv to get out of malaysia to work.. while at the same time, be able to do my responsibilities as a son spending time with my father in KL in this moment of time.. career-wise, i think my 31-40 has got on to a good start with this new job offer.. 31-40, what others have i got to achieve? none other than starting up a settled family life..

i was in Houston, Tx attending my senior’s wedding, and he said, he had it planned.. he coined it his 5yr plan, getting a secure job, finding a wife, and having kids at the end of the 5yrs plan. he is on track, he got married on the 3rd of 5yrs.. and so i thought that i should have something like that in my life too.. kids i’m not so sure, but i would like to start my own 3yr plan.. to find a gf/wife, hang around together for a bit and settle down by 3yrs.. i missed and stepped onto many potholes in my 21-30, but for 31-40, i am so ready to get that right! career, love and family, let’s do it!

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